Rejection is never an easy thing to get over. It plays with your emotions and it is easy to feel discouraged. If anything, you reel about in your head all the ways what you could have done better. If you are like me, you take it personally and are hard on yourself but reality is, everyone deals with it and though it isn’t always pretty, there are ways to use the rejection to fuel your strength.
Here are 3 ways to handle rejection that I have learned recently from receiving a lot of no’s:
1) Don’t take it personally
Seeing that I have recently dealt with a lot of no’s lately, I can totally and utterly understand the feeling of rejection and taking it personally. You tend to think back on the situation and think of all the things you could have done differently to get a different outcome. You can think that it’s because they don’t like who you are and what you have to offer. In reality, that’s not possible nor true. There are so many reasons things don’t work out, and if for example you are at a job interview and you don’t get the job, there may just have been a candidate that has done as certain job that you haven’t done yet. It’s not a hit on your personality, it’s not a hit on who you are. It’s just not the right fit and not meant to be, and it’s that way for a reason. You have to believe that and take it not as a blow to who you are a person, because a rejection shouldn’t take a hit on your self-esteem.
2) Give yourself an hour for a pity party but that’s all
I understand that feeling sorry for yourself is totally understandable after rejection. I mean after rejection all I want to do is sleep and cry, and do it if or the entire rest of the day. However, what a waste of a day it is to do so. You can give yourself at most an hour to wallow in sorrow about what happened but not more. You can’t give who or what rejected you more of your time being sad. It’s not healthy for you, and it’s not worth it either.
3) Get up and brush your knees off
Use the rejection to fuel your strength and to make you stronger. Get up and brush off your knees from falling and attack the world again as you did before. I always think of a little toddler who falls after just starting to walk. They get back up so quickly, and don’t even let falling phase them. That is the mentally you need when facing rejection. It’s not about letting them knock you down, and staying down forever. It’s about having them knock you down, and standing back up with even more confidence than before and attack the situation head on. It’s about believing that something right will come along when it’s suppose, and until then you will fight and continue to fight
Overall, don’t give up hope. There is a reason why that particular thing didn’t work out and something else will come down the line that you will notice is so much better than the thing you got rejected for. It may not be easy to see now but it is something I believe to be 100% true. How often that has happened to me is uncountable but I believe it now, especially in the state of rejection season for me, and you should to.
Everything works out as its suppose to be. I promise.
And “Trust that when the answer is no, there’s a better yes down the road”
P.S. I will be doing my L.A. post soon! I promise!